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I’ve Got An Issue #29: Love Is A Cruel Joke

Just when you think I’m gone forever! I pop back up feeling a little more clever! Well hello there! I’ve Got An Issue has been on hiatus for some time, but I’m back with it! I hope you enjoy this one. It is unlike most of the previous issues.  Consistency isn’t my strongest suit at the moment, but I’m working on it. I’ll be post more stuff soon…that is if I and I can get it together. Discipline and a schedule is needed lol. Enjoy everyone!

Love Is Cruel

Yesterday I had a thought: Love is a cruel joke.  This thought was followed by the expansion pack: Love is a cruel magic trick. You see I know that Love can be one of the most positive, negative, powerful, beautiful, and amazing experience that  a human being can go through. Let’s face it as cheesy and cliché love can be sometimes, Love is pretty awesome. Love is a wonderful feeling when it works out perfectly and a terrible after thought when executed poorly. I like to think of Love like mana in fantasy books and video games. You have limited uses of love mana, buy when it is created you have witnessed a spectacle. Love is full of magic that can build a lore that your grandkids will look back at and aspire to have one day. Unfortunately, real love is a rarity in this world. It is as rare as an unreleased album by Prince or unreleased studio session by The Beatles. So when you have it you should hold on as tight as you can. It makes perfect sense, hold on to awesome people because well other people can’t have them. It is natural to be selfish in this moment. Love is a beautiful gift from The Maker or whatever deity you serve. It is necessity we humans need in order to keep pushing through this thing called life. You can go it alone like Beck said, but isn’t it nicer to have a companion to go through life with? For most of us, the answer is undeniably yes.

One thing remains true, love is a cruel joke.

Why is it a cruel joke then? Why do I feel this way? You may think that what I said in the previous paragraph refutes that statement alone, but let me indulge you on why I think love is a cruel joke. I’ve seen this “joke” play out countless times in my life whether that’s personal or just an on looker from the other side.

Love is cruel because it can enable you to lower all your defenses at let a person see you for you. UH OH! There is a breach in your fortress and that person has made a room in there! You know so they won’t ever leave you ALONE! Love is cruel because you can show a person the real you, meaning you can expose your strengths and weakness to them hoping they will do the same for you. Spoiler alert: they never do. Darn it, they now know everything about me and will use it to their advantage! What do I win? Congratulations you have been courting a fallacy please enjoy our home version of the game: Cruel Lovers for great people! I swear that game is a best seller somewhere. Love is cruel because you can give yourself to a person freely only to be used. That’s right you just got punk’d only there is no Ashton Kutcher around to give you a hug and laugh at how dumb you looked. You thought those feelings were real?! Sir or Madam you are delusional. Love is cruel because you can give your all and it is not enough. Welcome to life ladies and gentlemen because that is going to happen a lot. Love is cruel because you trust someone just for them to eviscerate you and that trust. Oh yeah didn’t see that coming did ya? Have fun putting yourself back together. WHO KNOWS HOW LONG THAT IS GONNA TAKE HAHAHA! Love is cruel because truth and honesty just isn’t enough anymore. Do you have a side of cheating to spice up the relationship or I’m going to abandon you in general? This relationship was boring soooooooo somebody had to do something! Love is cruel because you can love someone to the moon and stars only for that person not to reciprocate that love to you EVER. Either you just aren’t forward enough or you are a diamond in the rough when the person doesn’t have the tools to dig you out of the rough.  They could be dense in the head or they know you love them dearly, but will never ever shoot that love back at you. Cruel isn’t it? Many reasons besides this classify love as cruel joke.

However, this isn’t a bad thing!

Maybe love is a cruel joke at times, but be thankful for the joke. Be thankful for that magic trick expansion pack. Be thankful for the experience. Guess what genius? I don’t know if you know this, but somehow you got through it. You persevered! You became a winner in your eyes. You believed in yourself to pull yourself out of the hole you were in. Sure it took you some time, but that cruel joke brought valuable lessons. You learned that everyone isn’t for everyone; some folks don’t love as hard as you do. This is okay! Hopefully, you know to rein your emotions back a little bit. You learned to sift through those who are untrue and false to find those who feel the way you do. I guarantee you will love them harder than any of your past loves because you are both sharing each other with each other. AWW SO ADORABLE!  Do you understand what I’m saying to you? You learned to catch on very quickly to situations where you aren’t making much progress love wise. You know where you stand and it is okay. Stand there, but don’t stay there! Move forward because it is the best thing to do. There are so many experiences down the road ahead! You learned how you love people. Each style varies. You may give it your all one hundred percent of the time, just to get hurt again, but that is who you are or you may be very cautious when it comes to loving people, but again that is who you are. Modifying that style and adapting to the way you love people is a process. Some of us can change it while others are either one style of many.

Yes, love is a beautiful experience crafted from magic, chemistry, trust, honesty, and real emotions.

Just remember one thing: love is also cruel joke yet you learned from it and now you can laugh.


I’ve Got An Issue #25: Bad Parents

Welcome to I’ve Got An Issue!

Remember the very first installment of this series? If you don’t, I spoke about how one parent shaved their step-son’s head because of bad grades and smoking weed while she was doing way more dirt than he was. Unlike math, both negatives did not equal a positive. I pointed out how hypocritical it was for that person to teach her step son the right thing to do while secretly that she was dong the wrong thing. Maybe I was wrong for making that my very first entry, but I was making a point back then. I do not know her and she may or may not be a bad person. It was wrong for me to judge her. I’ll admit that, but her actions was what I judged overall and they were wrong. So I apologize if any hurt came from it. One thing I do not like is bad parenting, but something I hate more than bad parenting is bad parents. Bad parenting doesn’t necessarily mean bad parents. I may disagree with the methods, but I understand for some cases why parents use some of these destructive methods (shaving of heads, breaking systems, mental abuse, spanking, etc). They do it out of love, however they should be corrected because those methods can have long lasting effects.

Now with that out of the way, I have an issue with bad parents.

What is a bad parent?

My definition of a bad parent is simple: A person who does not want to take responsibility in raising or taking care of their children. Also a person who only brings children into this world, but abandons them. Bad parents can also fall under people who just abuse their kids for their sick psyche or just a horrible person who shouldn’t have had kids in the first place.

The Issue

What I cannot understand is how your kids could not be your all? You and your partner brought a kid into this world or adopted a child now all of a sudden you do not want to take the responsibility of being a parent? I don’t get that. I feel like all of the “me” stuff has to be put on the side for great development for the kids because they become first priority. There are exceptions where the kids aren’t first because the relationship with the partner is toxic and you have to come to an agreement to not go insane. Infidelity does not count as one of these exceptions. All of my comments go to those who feel like they don’t have to take of their kids or teaching them morals or guide them in life. ALL of you who think your poop don’t stink, all of you who think they are going to be fine without you. I hope all of yall meet pike to the face. The minute you brought a life into this world, you signed a contract for 18 years or more to be a superhero to your kids. Why would you want to be a villain when they are gonna rely on you the most? Folks, it is not fair to act like they don’t exist while you are living the bachelorette or bachelor life. I mean what was the point of conceiving them if you weren’t going to do the hard work that comes after that? Was it to go on Maury, Hit The Quan, and make an ass of yourself on national TV? Was it to go on paternity court knowing damn well you got someone pregnant or got pregnant just to be like “HEYYYYYYY I’m ON TV!!!”.  15 or 30 minutes of fame is sickening if you are willing to go through all of that. I fear that is becoming a trend that will not die.

The kids did not ask for this drama, so why put them through it? Once the results get read and the courts have closed the case, you bad parents do something even worst. You play the manipulation game with your kids to make yourself not only feel better, but look like that superhero you signed up to be when they are gonna eventually find out you were the villain the entire time. That stuff seriously will mess up a kid’s mentality guaranteed. All in the name of the trend right? You gotta be trendy now a days even if that means being child raising children. Childish behaviors by adults are the dumbest thing an adult can do. Mature adults don’t involve their kids in their problems. I thought common sense and logic would point that out, but you know just like education that’s lacking in a lot of people.

Here is a side note still relating to those bad parents. I noticed that as I’ve grown older, paternity suits and Maury just are not funny any more. Remember this is where Bad Parents can hit their best Dougie or I told you so. I suppose shows like that are for our entertainment, but those people on those shows are going through a life changing storm which is no laughing matter. Then again it could just be a group of actors trying to make an audience feel in the name of entertainment.  It is worse when you see it happen to people you know and all you can do is watch the storm touch down because you have no power here *King Theoden laugh*.

Bad Parents seriously think about what you are doing because you owe your kids, and you are their superheroes…or villains they will eventually get rid of.

Till next Issue!